Being a Kashmiri Mother

The truth of living in times driven by media is that it loves to concentrate on the bad things in life rather than the positive ones. And as a result unlike the rest of the country, Kashmir manages to live in the headlines for mostly bad reasons that are visible to the media.
The coverage of Kashmir that the non-residents see is through a narrow lens of media, which is mainly the reason we at KashmiriLife choose to reflect on the daily life, traditions, festivals, art and culture, here at large. With the world celebrating Mother’s day on May 13th, let’s see what story Kashmir has to tell.

To start, let’s talk about our love – our mother and food. Our conversation starts with food and ends with food just as our days.
Our day starts at 5 with the pleasant Azaan heard every morning. We wake up and get ready and our ‘nun chai’ and ‘kandur chot’ (bakery of kashmir) is ready! What’s better than waking up to a scrumptious breakfast every morning? An even better lunch that follows.
Who has the time to worry about what to cook for lunch while having breakfast? Of course our mothers.Mother is the only person who’s ‘pro’ at feeding her children and constantly worries that the child needs to be fed. The one thing they’d never forget to do, is pilling on a few extra pounds on you when you come back home from the hostel as you are never fat enough for her. And let’s accept this who doesn’t crave for mom’s home-made food!

It goes without saying that mothers are creatures blessed with divine qualities of unconditional love, ability to sacrifice and Kashmiri mothers are no exceptions. They pray to the Lord to put them through all the trials instead of their children.
You’d often hear them saying things in Kashmiri like ‘Balai lagai’ ‘Rati chaep lagai’ ‘Zu panun vandai’ to their children which all in all mean ‘may all your hardships be mine’ ‘May all your mis-happenings occur to me instead’.
Though I’m not well versed in a lot of languages but, Kashmiri is definitely the most expressive and sweetest language. Here’s some heart warming phrases you’ll get to hear on a daily basis that mothers use to express love towards us, ‘Zu myon’ (My life!)  ‘Jigar’ (A piece of my heart)  Gobur myon (My loving child) and so on.

When they get mad, we are petrified of them. They scold us, threaten to the extent of ‘Naar di yiman kitaban’ sarcastically which means ‘Set your books on fire’ ,’Paei trath,tche mandchawak aes’ (May you get struck with lightning, you’ll put our name to shame) but here’s a gentle reminder, they’ll not spare anybody if they set a finger at you.
Well, these threats work great.

Nobody can match the warmth of a mother’s embrace. Remember, you never grow up for her. They’d wrap you into a huge bear hug and have a typical Koshur style of kissing. The warmth of a costly Pashmina shawl is no match for a ‘Mouji’s’ hug and kisses. The love is such that you can never miss it and it will definitely warm up your heart.


Regardless of their different shades there’s nobody who makes you feel safer than mothers.
Kashmiri women are adorable! And they make really cute moms. We love them more for all of these qualities.

A very Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there! May God bless them.