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Kashmiri Gift Giving 101: Traditions And Customs

Let me share a secret today! If you are like me, you love giving gift as much as you love receiving them. There’s absolutely nothing like receiving a gift. Today let’s talk about the gift giving traditions of Kashmir.
Along with its beautiful and vibrant landscapes, lakes, pleasant weather, the valley of Kashmir is culturally and traditionally so unique and vibrant that even people from other states would agree upon it. In our state the idea of congratulating people on new beginnings with its elaborate gifts has been well established since ancient times. This very old tradition that we religiously follow is called ‘Mubarkas gasun’ (Going to each other’s household to congratulate one another on auspicious occasions).

We celebrate almost anything and everything! And as a token of love we present gifts. Just like us our gifts are also unique.

Shower your love on different occasions with a unique gift from this list:

1.Kashmiri Almonds in a gift box

Let Kashmiri Almonds save your time and make your ‘mubarakas (congratulations)‘ even more special. Because of its superiority of taste they are very popular with the consumers. You won’t find almonds like these anywhere outside Kashmir. This festive season make things sweet by not forgetting to put some candies and the fancily pleated money intermingled with the almonds.

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2.The power of a Juice crate

Short on time but looking for the perfect gift box? This gift crate combines tradition, savings as well as satisfaction. Tasty juice gift pack is highly in demand owing to its flavor varieties and durability. Aunties’ carrying a juice crate is a common sight here in Kashmir.

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3.Perfect and always on demand – Fruits

A basket that has colorful, farm fresh and 100% ripe and juicy fruits is the perfect gift to express happiness on different occasions. Not only that this is also a perfect a gift of wellness you can carry. One gift that was shaped to serve two purposes: share happiness and health.

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4.Bakery and confectionery

From cakes to pastries to patties we Kashmiris are very fond of our breads and buns! Need the best bakery that is sure to impress your guest? Try Just Baked, Crème Bakery, Baker Boy and many more. No get together is ever complete without bakery items. We all have very well know local small bakeries that aare the best place for affordable yet good quality bakery items.

5.A gift that can stand the test of time.Gold

Extravagant generosity. Gold makes an unbeatable impression when given on big career achievements of our children, weddings, the birth of a baby and even when a girl child in the family gets her ears pierced. We gift each other gold as it brings good luck and can even multiply in value.
Popular in this section are the gold coins with a King Edward posing on it.

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Having a hard time buying the perfect gift? Why not gift Money to each other in fancy envelopes as a token of love! This is called ‘Vartaav karun’. Giving cash in Kashmiri weddings is a very common practice and we can buy the gift our choice.
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6.The irreplaceable love for Sweets

We are sweet and we love our sweet treats as well.
Ditch your diabetes villain for a day and go for a box of sweets from the popular ‘Shakti Sweets’ or ‘The Modern Sweets‘ on the Residency Road. This also makes a good gift to bring on an auspicious occasion.

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Copper is recognized as a symbol of wealth. Gifting ‘Traam‘ is an old tradition still treasured in Kashmir.
Forget gold, the traditional wedding gift we love getting and giving is Copper. It comes in various forms, some may bring you ‘Traamuk Toor’ or ‘Kyenz‘ which are traditional rice bowls with intricate designs on the outside and on weddings one also gifts the bride/groom things like the ‘Samavar‘ (Traditional Kashmiri Copper Kettle) and the ‘Isband Soz’ (The Traditional Copper Incense Burner)

Probably the last on our list is the warm hugs. What can replace the indescribable joy of receiving warm hugs? Nothing!

And if you take pleasure in reading then this article is a gift for you from our side.

You do not have to be rich to be generous.”
Kashmiris are generous people and giving makes them happy. Their lifestyle and traditions are very different from the rest of the world. We cherish our traditions and absolutely love them!


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The Big Fat Kashmiri Hindu Wedding (Customs and Traditions)

Do you have enough time to spend on the internet today, reading this blog? Then this will be an affair to remember! Far away from the chaos of the city life, in nature’s splendor and hospitality at its best, would you like to read a story of the most unique and remarkable ‘Yes, I do’? You got that right; today we are going to talk about the most beautiful Kashmiri Hindu wedding.

Read on to know about the series of rituals observed before and after the wedding thus making it a prolonged affair.

The stunning Valley of Kashmir becomes even more stunning with the charm and luster added by these weddings. The warmth and simplicity of the Kashmiri people are reflected in their wedding ceremonies. A marriage is considered to be unique and unrepeatable, a once-in-a-life-time moment for both the families. And the most important, not to be missed out part is the ‘jealous ristedaars’ that makes a marriage celebration successful. 😉

To make arrangements distinct, preparations starts a year ago after tecknis (horoscopes) of prospective bride and groom are matched and a wedding date is proposed by the bride’s parents. And well, besides the bride and groom the purohit (priest) is the third most important person. With the consent of the parents the purohit fixes an auspicious day for the wedding.


The power of Pre wedding rituals

Marriage is not all merry making! The pre-wedding ritual is the time to ‘set the bar’. You would definitely need a desperate dose of patience to get prepared for the main day. And as elders would say, ‘Patience is the key to a lasting Marriage’. So, hang in there!

And for all you readers out there take a glimpse at the pre-wedding rituals of a Kashmiri wedding:

Kasamdry (the Formal Engagement)

An engagement ceremony takes place fixed as per the Kashmiri calendar. Var (a special rice pudding) is prepared and distributed by the eldest aunt separately in each house.


Before you want to jump into the wedding celebration head-on, cleansing of the house marks a major preparation in the Kashmiri homes.


Following the livun ritual, till the marriage ceremony, a small sangeet (music) session is held in both the bride’s and the groom’s houses as the next steps in the marriage. The house will prepare and serve guests noon or sheer chai (a salted pink tea) at the end of such singing sessions.


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One week prior the wedding countdown begins decorating the doors of the houses of the bride and the groom takes place. Following that day on the evening after an elaborate bathing ritual, the eldest aunt of the bride decorates her hand and feet with maenz (henna).


A ceremony that marks the transition of the bride and the groom from brahmacharya ashram (Celibate) to grihastha ashram (Householder).
As a sign that suggests that the bride is now ready for the marriage an essential jewelry known as the dejaharu, an ear ornament is worn by the bride after kanishran (bathing in water, rice, milk and curd).

Last in the order but definitely not the least Duribat

Food is an important part of any wedding celebration regardless of culture or religion. As the consumption of meat and meat products is traditionally forbidden in Kashmiri Hindu weddings, a traditional vegetarian lunch is served. The recipes are so satisfying that you’ll want to go meatless for the entire time. Maternal relatives of both sides are invited for the lunch.


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You want to look and feel stunning on your wedding day, don’t you? You want to look a bit unreal, yet stylish and elegant. And when speaking of an elegant Kashmiri bride, how can we forget about the ‘Pheran’. Kashmir is a haven for colorful bright pherans. Brides either chose from the ones displayed there or go for a customized tailored Pheran designed with colourful elements. The groom wears a stylized but plain pheran with a sword in his waistband and jootis to match that.
A wedding dress can be lovingly restored as a family heirloom and later on you can narrate stories of the dress to your grand children while reliving the memories.

Grooms are also not spared from wedding rituals. Before the baraati leaves for the bride’s house, the groom must stand on a vyoog (rangoli pattern made of rice flour and colours). And as the ceremonial practice goes, a conch shell is blown to announce his departure and as a gesture of goodwill the family gives away two pots containing some money as alms to poor.

Lagan (Tying the Knot)

The long wait is finally over.
On arrival of the baraati(the bridegroom’s party), the bride is brought out to the place where the groom is made to stand by her maternal uncle. Before the couple is being led to the lagan mandap(an awning below which the wedding rituals are performed) a dwar puja is performed.
Agni (the sacred Fire) plays an important role in various aspects of the Hindu Tradition. The wedding rituals are all performed in front of this sacred fire. Nervous and excited bride and groom see each other for the first time through the images formed in the mirror. After seeing each other to the heart’s content they are made to hold hands in a firm grip symbolizing that the grip doesn’t be weak with the passage of time. Then a cloth is used to cover their hands. This tradition is called Athwas in Kashmiri. Theories of folklore point out that whoever is able to pull out the engagement ring of the other first, that person will be dominant in the relationship. This is followed by the saath pheras (the seven circumambulation of the sacred fire) of Hindu marriage). The first phera is made by stepping on seven one rupee coins putting always her right foot forward first.
The Vivaaha is complete and the couple are now husband and wife in the sight of God, and of course all people!

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The wedding stuff is all over, and now it’s time to delight the guests with some awesome Kashmiri vegetarian dinner prepared by the waza (cook). The Daya Bataah ceremony is held where the bride and groom are made to eat from the same plate.

Posh Puza

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Many ends aren’t really endings. At the end of the ceremony, the bride and groom are made to sit in a comfortable position while a red cloth is placed on their heads. Along with Vedic chants, posh (flowers) are offered to the couple by all people around them.

It’s time for the Bidai(the farewell)

The dream marriage is over and now it’s time for the painful moment. It’s time for the bride to leave the most favourite place, her house and go to a new place to new people. Before bidding good bye to her friends and relatives she throws a fistful of raw rice over her shoulder towards that house. It is a tradition most of us are familiar with.


For those attending the wedding party more than half of the time is spend on a lot of fun filled activities and buying and gifting new clothes and things.


Traditionally the couple goes to the bride’s house in the evening where they are presented with new clothes, some salt as shagun and cash. The groom is also presented with a dusa (six-yard pashmina shawl).

Roth Khabar

On the first Saturday or Tuesday after the wedding, the bride’s parents send a roth (traditional long freshly baked cake decorated with nuts) to their son-in-laws family.

Gar Atchun

The bride’s brother and sister comes to the marital home to escort the bride back to her parents home for a day. This ritual is known as Gar Atchun. A grand meal is prepared by the bride’s family. After the meal it’s finally time for the couple to return to her new home while carrying all the gifts presented to her by her parents.

The ‘Lakshmi( Hindu Goddess of prosperity, in the case of the bride)’ is finally home. The last ritual brings us to an end of the authentic Kashmiri Hindu wedding and as we come to the end of the blog,
Here’s to the new beginning and everlasting days of laughter and love.
“A happy marriage is about three things: memories of togetherness, forgiveness of mistakes and a promise to never give up on each other.”

The Story Of A 'City Of 7 Bridges/Kadal'-From The City Of Kashmir

The Story Of A ‘City Of 7 Bridges/Kadal’-From The City Of Kashmir

The old city of Srinagar – An Indian city that still holds on to its medieval charm with its meandering roads, smells and sounds from its bustling bazaars, the muddy brown river Jhelum and the of-course the lifelines of the city, the Kadals. It’ll seem as if you have stepped into the pages of an enchanting storybook.

Today let us dive into one such page of the book. About 80kms south of Srinagar, the integral part of the city, the muddy brown river Jhelum passes from Verinag to the Wular Lake in the north. Settlers relied on this river for commercial vitality.
The two banks of the river are knitted together with the help of the bridges which are naturally divided by the Jhelum. There are a total of eight bridges connecting the two banks of the river. And as love connects one to the other, it takes both sides to build a bridge.
Therefore I guess the same word ‘Kadal’ means ‘a bridge’ in Kashmiri and ‘love’ in Tamil.

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The Jhelum River runs eight bridges spanning the city. The bridges are, Amira Kadal, Habba Kadal, Fateh Kadal, Zaina Kadal, Aali Kadal, Nawa Kadal, Safa Kadal and Zero Bridge. Each of these bridges has a history as rich and unique as the place itself.

Don’t be surprised if you get a view of Kashmir, having buildings of old bricks and stone work lining both sides of the river, from any of the old city’s bridges.

Amira Kadal – The first bridge

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The heart is the first organ to form during the development of the body. Probably that is the reason ‘Amira Kadal’ is referred to as ‘The heart of Srinagar’. Dating back from the 1770s, during the Afghan rule over the valley through the re-construction in 1982, the bridge adds to the feel of the local life and livelihood. Flocks of friendly welcoming bunch of fisherwomen are seen doing business sticking to the walkway. Take out your camera and show your photography skills or simply buy them to cook some Kashmiri style fish.

Haba Kadal – The second bridge

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A very familiar view from the window of the small lower houses located across the river during the 1980s was that of goods being transported on horse carts. The mountain peaks of Kashmir Valley formed a magnificent backdrop of the Habba-Kadal area. Take a walk of the entire historic bridge to get a sight of the hub of commercial activity. Recently there’s an ongoing work at the bridge.

Fateh Kadal – The third bridge

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The kadal was built during Fateh Khan’s rule and thus it is known how the bridge got its name. Being one of the oldest among all the bridges it is now in a crumbling state.

Zain Kadal – The fourth bridge

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The city was divided into two halves by the Jhelum which finally united after Sultan Zainul Aabideen built the only connecting link, the Zaina Kadal. It is one of the city’s oldest bridges. A hope of togetherness stands tall with the Khanqah-i-Moulla on one side and a temple on the other. The architecture of this bridge is the best preserved example of ancient Kashmir.

Ail Kadal – The fifth bridge

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Earlier, the rulers had all the time and privilege to adjust things to their heart’s content. Sultan Ali Shah had also done something similar. In a wish to get the beautiful panoramic view of the splashing water of the Jhelum and to enjoy the gentle breeze that blows, he created this bridge. However now you might not get such a view as the old bridge was burnt down.

Nawa Kadal – The sixth bridge

The New bridge or Boat Bridge was destroyed completely and rebuilt by the then CM Sheikh Abdulla.

Safa Kadal – The seventh bridge

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The Safa Kadal in Kashmir is perhaps the oldest bridge in the league. It depicts a long story of achievements of the skilled workers who hand-crafted the bridge on the gushing Jhelum.

Though there are a total of eight bridges that connects the two banks of the river, yet Srinagar is known as the ‘city of seven bridges’. Well, this is the story of ‘Zero’ who has no place. There’s a bridge in Srinagar by the name of Zero. And the story goes like this; this bridge was built by a deaf contractor and was therefore called ‘zorr Kadal’. In the due course of time the name changed to become ‘Zero bridge’. Therefore it did not find its place on the list.

“An address of Kashmiri culture and heritage, the bridge provides a grand view of the main city, now usually being referred as the old city.”
From then to now, most of these bridges have witnessed the history of Kashmir.

A small tip for the travelers, make sure to take a walk around the city instead of just spending hours at the stores. You can see stories and histories unfold while you walk instead of realizing that you’ve walked for hours.

Go for this walk to see this Kashmir, you haven’t seen otherwise!

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Varieties Of Fruits Grown In The Valley Of Kashmir

Have you ever painted an image of Paradise in your mind? Typically you must have imagined people lying on clouds, wearing wings and playing harps. It is a place to endless kashmir fruit gardens and vineyards whose wilderness you shall rejoice. There is peace and joy in the place where God dwells.
And going by Amir Khusro’s famous words “Agar firdaus bar roo-e zameen ast, hameen asto, hameen asto, hameen ast” literally translated as” If there is Paradise on Earth, it is here, it is here, it is here”, Kashmir, is that Paradise on Earth.

Yes, to visit Heaven while you are still on Earth you must come to Kashmir- India’s most picturesque state. You will feel the grey blanket of clouds hanging low on your face, and as the gentle wind will guide you around the orchards you will feel happy and contented.

Surrounded by the snow-hooded Himalayan Ranges, Kashmir is an endearing abode of scenic charisma.  Along with its scenic beauty there’s a bountiful supply of fruits in the heaven on earth whose taste and flavor has no match. It has been rightly described as the land of fruits. Today let’s take the route to fruit.
Keep your eyes on the page; you’ll be surprised to know the list.

Let’s start with the popular ones:

1. An Apple a Day keeps the Doctor away

Did you know, 80% of the apples supplied to the rest of the country come right from the valley. The sweetest and the finest varieties of apples grow here in Kashmir. Explore Srinagar, Budgam, Baramullah, Anantnag, Pulwama and Kupwara if you want to reach for the best apples.

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2. Nourish bowl for the soul-Pomegranate

Orchards of Kashmir are naturally laden with the nutritionally rich fruit Anaar, primarily in the month of September. As always, the Kashmiri variety of the ruby red fruit is different from other varieties. Don’t be surprised if the air smells of pomegranate and around every corner you catch a glimpse of the rounded shrub while on your way. Pomegranate tress are scattered all over Srinagar city.

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3.Pretty as Peach

How, many a times you’ve stopped near the fruits section and glanced at the tempting peaches whenever you’ve gone grocery shopping in a mall. Will it excite you to know that not all peaches on the stores are imports? Yes. The temperate areas of Jammu and Kashmir grow a variety of Peaches known as ‘Prabhat’. Peaches grow here from April to Late June. This summer may be try some sweet velvety peaches along with the always favourite mangoes.

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4.You are ‘Pear’fect!

Pears are some of the oldest fruit in existence which we see in the valley today. The land has been growing several varieties of centuries old traditional fruits. A superior variety of good firm pear with a rich aroma is grown in Kashmir.

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5.Evergreen Olives.

Many of you will be surprised to know that olives were found in Kashmir. Yes, apart from New Zealand and parts of Argentina, olives are successfully grown in Srinagar. Uri, Banhihal and Ranban areas of Kashmir have the most suitable weather conditions for the cultivation of olives. The evergreen olive trees are famous for their therapeutic character.

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6.You are Plum perfect!

Welcome to Rawalpora in Srinagar where you’ll find an entirely carved out plum orchards in between vast farmlands. This ‘sweet-soury’ fruit is grown largely in Srinagar and many other districts. One of the main varieties produced in Kashmir is ‘centrose plum’. The other two varieties are ‘silver plum’ and ‘Chogandhra’ and are grown only on a small scale.

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7.Don’t let the outside fool you-Kiwi

Who would’ve thought that the brown fuzzy skin on the outside would cut open into a bright green flesh dotted with an array of tiny black seeds? Ripe Kiwi fruits taste sweet and mellow with a mix of a refreshing tangy flavor. The growing of Kiwis in Kashmir shows how much potential the land has in terms of horticulture and floriculture.

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8.Ripe and Golden Apricots

Belonging to the family of plums and peaches, apricots are a daily diet must have to lead a healthy lifestyle. This wonder fruit is good for a lot of organs from the human eye to the heart and also the bones. Kashmir is the home to such wonders of fruits. The soil, environment and climate facilitate growth of these temperate fruits.

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9.You stand out like a Strawberry in a bowl of peas

Have you seen a strawberry bed? The red juicy strawberries stand out in the vibrant green ground cover. Strawberries are mostly grown in kitchen gardens. Besides Srinagar, the always in demand strawberries are grown in Ganderbal, Budgam, Baramulla, Bandipora, Kupwara, Islamabad and Pulwama.

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10.With the Cherry-on-top

Not surprisingly this mouth-watering delicious fruit thrive in the colder climate of Jammu and Kashmir. Cherries are also considered as pre historic fruits cultivated all over the world. As of 2014, Kashmir, in India dedicated the most land to cherry production.

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No wonder, the valley of Kashmir has been rightly termed as the ‘Fruit Bowl of India’ with such vast varieties of fruits.

The much promised beauty is waiting to be unraveled. Come, visit Kashmir!